A Curation Of Thoughts And Experiences On Grief

I was inspired to send a heartfelt note on my experience with grief to my Newsletter Community. Yes, you heard me, I have a small village that you are just getting to know about, we go way deeper and closer there. You better join HERE before you start to get jealous.

I bet you it’s an entirely different space over there and I’ve shared a few stuff you can catch up with.

3rd April 2014 marked nine years since I had my first taste of grief…

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I was about to set the pot of water for eba on the cam gas outside my room that served as the cooking space for my neighbours and me in Uni. when my Nokia 1280 phone rang impatiently to announce that my sister was no longer breathing…..

What is real is that everybody will have a taste of grief and death. We would lose our loved ones and eventually leave this world too. (Was that harsh?)

The darkness will pass; sooner or later, we will live again. We will continue life even though we vow not to ever forget. (I tattooed my wrist with the date)…

It’s been quite an excruciating journey, and I can relate to other people’s feelings so well. God is the enigma behind these happenings, and in Him alone is our ease.

…… it is a natural phenomenon given the name “grief.”

I did all the talks THERE, but here are even more thoughts and expressions I have put out at different times and occasions. I hope this helps anyone; you are not alone. ❤

To the bereaved, it wasn't the devil who took your beloved. God allowed for the transition of these souls as He has destined. What the devil can best do when you are in grief is to minister negative thoughts into your mind about God. This is when you should get to work to rebuke

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) March 31, 2023

A grief tweet distorts me for a few minutes before I snap back. To think I've walked that path 2 despirate times has me in awe for life. May God comfort every bereaved person at this moment.🖤

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) March 6, 2023

I confess today that heavy burdens are being lifted off my chest. Stressful loads are taken away and taken out of the way. I am no longer a victim of emotional pain, burdens, and baggage. The Word of God has healed and delivered me from pain, grief, loss, and emotional stress.

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) March 17, 2023

It is always positive energy with me, gasing you the hell up, making you feel seen, encouraging, aiding 😋 and commending your works. Grief and darkness opened me to more spirituality and my niche of journalism makes me a promoter.

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) December 17, 2022

Prayers of strength and courage to everyone spending this season in pains, loss or grief.❤❤❤

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) December 26, 2020

8 years and forever in my heart sis. To think your grief would be the last I'll ever know of till a host friends and my brother took your route. I thank God for your short bright life. It was never dark till you passed. May Allah keep resting your soul. I will never forget you.🖤

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) April 3, 2022

The more we hear, the scarier it gets. We rub our grief on and carry on in life. 💔

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) March 22, 2021

February Ends,
I want to thank GOD for fitting me back in a good state of mind. It's been months journeying in grief and distress. I don't ever wanna go back there. I saw, I learnt in the hard way, I am growing, I am healing, I am seeking light and loving myself more.❤

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) February 28, 2021

Known too many angels and I will save what that makes me. Yesterday was Sly's posthumous birthday, weren't tight with him but might have found myself at his gathering through our mutuals if it were back in the Uni.

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) January 19, 2022

I can say I no longer return home from a gathering to feel lonely, brood, sulk or cry. Thay was quite a phase, Alhamdulilahi.🙇🏻‍♂️🙇🏻‍♂️🙇🏻‍♂️

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) February 26, 2021

Davido being asked if he ever has time to grief and Toke Makinwa relaying the pain of watching your most treasured humans lowered into the ground on 'Tea with Tay Pod' felt that 💔💯

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) January 13, 2022

My heart goes to the homes in grief at the moment💔 5 years ago we were barely prepared for ours.

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) April 2, 2019

I preach grief differently

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) September 28, 2021

I can't even cry anymore
I am too familiar with the feeling of grief
I can't resist reaching my phone for videos, pictures, conversations with friends and families who have passed.

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) July 8, 2021

I hope someone is not told how to grief. Cry, post, tweet, let it out, do whatever!

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) July 2, 2021

Maybe I am not new to the business of grief. This hits home.💔

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) July 6, 2021

There shall be no more shame in grief. We celebrate while alive and when no more. Love for life.🖤

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) July 6, 2021

The walls of grief are on the road trip to closeness to God. Look well💀

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) May 14, 2021

Replenish my tears wth triumph this day oh Allah. Its hard to live wth this grief.

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) June 6, 2014

Continuing in a renewed yellow hope. 🌻 Yes that's the colour I see, and sometimes it is purple. 🔮 Blessings occur to me in bright orange 🟠🧡 or rich red. 🍉🍓🍒

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) April 7, 2023

God has healed and delivered me from pain, grief, loss, and emotional stress. I experience freedom and victory. The yoke is broken in Jesus’ name, Amen.https://t.co/CMr61TofpP

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) April 25, 2023

We have lost a number of dear ones. It's no longer news to us. We are no longer new to the business of grief. We have cried too much, we are just there!

Rest easy Ridoh! This hits home 💔 I knew you, I dined with you. May Allah bless your soul and forgive your shortcomings.Ameen

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) May 28, 2022

This was also through occupational shift and grief. Depression stung me and paranoia took its turn, I became aware of PTSD and did quite a time with mad anxiety…but all through, I was the kindest I could be to my surrounding.

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) June 16, 2021

🙏🏻About a year ago: homeless, changed jobs, grief approaching and life was about to give me another meaning but I maintained beauty all through.🤩 pic.twitter.com/JPxDMEZ3Jz

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) November 13, 2021

The room will never smell of them again, you may not see them again in your dream again. All superstitions will sublime. Life will keep happening, naturally you will move on even if you don't wish to. But, knowingly or unknowingly your life has taken a mold.

— Sa'eedah Imam (@saeedah30th) April 3, 2022

Love,

Sa’eedah ❤

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